Rules and Parent Approaches in Child Education

In child education, it is an important issue for parents to apply rules to put in order the child’s life and indicate who has authority. The parent should tend to bring internal discipline to the child by setting rules in his/her life. Internal discipline, on the other hand, is the development of the sense of responsibility and contributes to the formation of yes, no, acceptable and unacceptable behaviors in the life of the individual. It is sort of self-management and self-control of the child. Actually, this process is when he/she is still a early age individual learns to regulate his/her behavior with the rules set for his/her and this learning process is reinforced and developed with social life.

In the family environment, where the child is first introduced to the perception of rules, the points that parents should pay attention to while they have acquired this perception to children are as follows;

Parental attitudes of parents to have common yes and no to the child,

Ensure that taking care of children’s food, sleep and personal care needs are regular from a young age,

Designating the rules before they are established and stating the expectations by making the necessary explanations to the child, unexplained rules beforehand, on the other hand, can cause conflict in the parent-child relationship,

• The rules are clear and transparent,
• Parents be consistent with the rules they set and setting a model with their behavior,
• Parents do not disregard to appreciate in order to sustain the behavior and motivate of the child who fulfills the expectations,
• When expressing the rules, use of short and clear expressions and the parent has a constructive and decisive communication with the child,
• Parents should have expectations that are appropriate for the level of development by spreading them over time, instead of putting many rules in the child’s life,
• Organizing family meetings,
• Sometimes make the child taking a break or directing about his/her behavior will positively affect the child’s procuring internal discipline.

It should not be forgotten that children are our mirror. First of all, how we want them to be we should pay attention of being that way with our lives, communication and behaviors and be a good model for them.

 

Elif DEMİRER

Specialist Psychologist/Child-Adolescent Psychotherapist